The 'Attractors' are usually good-looking people who are always attracting people, aka The 'Chasers' but are never actually interested in them.
The 'Chasers' are the delusional 'de-lulu' people who try really hard to impress their 'Attractor' in hopes that their Attractor will also fall in love with them!
The Attractor
If you are an ‘Attractor’, an attractor is always attracting people, ‘The Chasers’.
An attractor is someone who knows they are good-looking, always gets asked out on dates, has people chasing them, doing things for them, spending money on them, and has chasers who are always there for them.
At some point, the chasers tell you how they 'really' feel about you, and then after you reject them, they tell you that they are okay with ‘just being your friend’. - Which you should know, is a big lie!
But an Attractor is not interested in their chasers because you are either looking for a connection or they are not your ‘type’.
If you’re looking for a specific type, how did you come up with this type in your head?
What makes you think that this type is for you? Because if you're still single and you keep on dating this “type” and it's not working for you, then maybe this “type” isn't for you at all! Do you honestly think that this 'type' is going to come in and solve your problems?
Also, if you are an Attractor, are you that naive to realize that Chasers don't want to just be your friend? You know they actually want to “be with you” be with you, right?
Or, are you well aware that you are taking advantage because it benefits you? Be honest.
Or,
Are you The Chaser?
The one who’s always chasing someone that you're attracted to.
You convince yourself you want to be with them and you're doing all these things to try to impress them. Hoping that they're going to notice you, hoping that they're going to say,
“Hey, I'm also interested in you.”
But it never happens.
And you're there for them, even though they continuously go out on dates with others, while you’re wondering how those people are getting chances and you're not getting the time of day?
Why do we continue to chase people that are not chasing us back?
How long do you chase before you give up?
Or do you seriously convince yourself that you can be their friend?
Did you ever ask yourself, why am I chasing this person? Did you ever turn around to see that they're not chasing you back?
The thing with being the 'Chaser' is that these people follow their hearts and not their minds. Our mind knows this is not good for us.
When you have the gut feeling that you are being used, that is your mind speaking to you telling you,
"Yes, you are being used!'.
That is the gut instinct telling you to listen to your head and not your heart.
Are you ‘Chasing’ the wrong person because you have a fear of commitment?
or,
Are you ‘Attracting’ the wrong person because you have a fear of commitment?
Or is this somehow related to your childhood and
what you saw growing up and
what you took from it and
you are looking for a relationship based on how you interpreted your parent's relationship or others?
Regardless, if you are ‘The Chaser’ or ‘The Attractor’, either or, are you even being you while you are those people?
Because if you’re trying to be someone else while you are attracting and chasing, then maybe this is why this isn't working out for you.
It’s important to find self-love first and foremost. Being your true self will be enough to attract soul connections. Because when you are not, then you find yourself always jumping into toxic ones!
If you can't be happy single, don't expect to have someone come into your life and change that for you if you can’t do it for yourself.
Pay attention to the couples around you. I’m not saying that all of them are good. I guarantee you that if you have friends who are in good relationships and you’ve known them from when they were single, you can probably see that they have not changed who they are for their person.
Now take a look at relationships that you know are not good. Did your friend change?
Are they the same or are they different?
Which relationships do you like better?
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